The Challenge To Be Pro-Women Part A

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Throughout this post I will use the terms women and woman interchangeably in reference to the same group. To each woman or women, if a man greets you, it is very important that you greet him back. I talked about this before. It does not hurt anybody to say hello. This is anywhere, be it in the workplace, at church, in the grocery store, mall, or out on the street.

Now, I received some information from some people about this subject. In a very specific setting in the workplace, in several countries there are rules against harrassment. The harrassment rules are to protect BOTH women and men from mistreatment in the workplace. However, from information I have received quite often the rules against harrassment are misinterpreted. Another thing to that, is quite often it is women who are quick to report or file harrassment charges.

In some cases the procedures for reporting harrassment was not done properly, and someone gets into trouble unnecessarily and loses their job when they should not have. One of the things I want to say to women, especially in a work environment, is that you do not want to be so quick to cry and report that a person is harrassing you to the boss or manager.

Another thing for bosses or managers you have to be careful and know how to manage a "potential harrassment situation". In other words, you need to understand what is harrassment, what proper protocols to take, when or when not to, and how to reprimand, punish or fire an individual accused of harrassment.

If a woman is too afraid to say something directly to the man, accused they can go to the boss or manager to report it, but not for the accused to be fired and lose his job. The boss or manager can communicate for the female employee to inform the accused for educational purposes; however, that procedure route I would not recommend, because that is where mismanagement can occur. Because in that situation, particularly if the accused was respectful, bosses and or managers tend to jump to wrong conclusions and up and fire the accused.

For women if a man is showing any kind of interest in you and respectfully gives you a compliment you as a grown, adult woman, who supposed to be able to take care of herself, should speak up to the guy and communicate TO HIM if you are interested or not. Tell the man if you do not like that, an do not want to hear it again. You should speak up right then to that guy only, and tell him and not go running to your boss or somebody else.

Then if the man continues to say those things to you after you have let him know you do not like that, then is it truly harrassment and then you have something to report that needs action to protect you. I have more so I will return to this.

Men Cheating On Their Wives 6th Pt.

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There is a so called Christian website I mentioned before, that spoke nasty things about the golfer who cheated on his wife. I want to discuss the website as it relates to or does not relate to God. As I mention some comments by the website authors, I will not quote them exactly, but paraphrase them for the same meanings. LET ME MAKE IT CLEAR THAT I DO NOT SUPPORT THE FOLLOWING COMMENTS BY THAT WEBSITE, I AM JUST REPORTING THEIR COMMENTS HERE.

For starters there is a comment about the golfer being Black, and because he is Black he has a over-active sex drive and can not stop his urges. Also, another comment there discusses that, because he is part Oriental, he lies. There is a reference to his Negroid ethnicity and comparison to a certain animal often referenced in evolution.

Another comment sarcastically implying Colored people to helpless dogs. There is another comment implying a warning to White people of allowing Black men to sleep with White women. Another comment mentioning that Blacks have to be watched or they will commit a specific type of crime.

Now, I am looking at that information, and I find those people and their comments to be very hateful and racist on many fronts. Again, I do NOT support such behavior. People do not sin because they are Black or any other race or ethnicity. Those comments are NOT based on facts, but hatred. I can describe factual realities of what several races are guilty of, especially the White Caucasoid.

By the way, the people who made those nasty comments about the golfer are White-Americans. The website is from the United States of America. The authors of the site claim to be Christian-conservatives, who believe they are Godly. They are NOT.

Just like I said all along in several past posts on America, there is a lot of this mess in America. Another thing, in America, conservatives are just as bad as liberals, but in important social areas, conservatives are worse. That website is full of hatred and filth. It is NOT of God; but again, it is EVIL to PUBLICALLY prey upon someone else's or an individual's personal failings in regards to sex.

All have sinned and come short of the glory of God. Being White or the White race is not a purer race or holier race or ethnicity. They judge that man and others as going to hell because of their darker skin color, like White people do not do those kinds of sin or are so in control and pleasing to God. Again, also, do not forget the referencing against Orientals.

There is a author on the site who calls herself a prophetess. That is the reason why I said what I said in earlier posts about not using the title or office of Prophet too loosely. That is a case in point. She makes prophets look bad. She does not have God's wisdom. She is misrepresenting God. She is NOT being led of God, NOR is she speaking His Word. Those authors on that site are deceived and deceiving others. They talk about people going to hell, but it appears to me, they will land in hell faster than many people with their self-righteous hatred. They are self-righteous Pharisees.

A lot of these people will be shocked in the end, when they find themselves rejected by God and not allowed in Heaven or in His eternal kingdom on earth. I am finally able to conclude this subject, and I can direct people to that website if necessary.

Men Cheating On Their Wives 5th Pt.

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I want to cover some more things about man's cheating situation. In the last post I mentioned that one fantasy most men have is to have more than one women. I mentioned that if I could I would. To counter this effect, I mentioned that the wives and husbands need to play more than one role in the marriage, especially the wife.

Further, I mentioned about how the temptations are greater today than in past generations or times. There are more temptations directed at men than women. So, in the area of sex and cheating, both areas seperate or together it is harder for men.

I want to mention that I may not have cheated on anyone, but I have faults. It is only by the grace of God that I have not done some bad things in relation to cheating.

There is also such a thing as the sin of thought, that everybody is guilty of at some point in time. So committing a sin is not always about doing, but includes saying the wrong thing and thinking the wrong thing in your mind and heart intentions.

What I do NOT want to do is have people put me on this holier than thou pedestal, like I can not sin or am not supposed to sin. Of course I am not supposed to sin. I want to be holy unto God, but I am not perfect. Do not be surprised. YOU READ IT FROM ME RIGHT HERE IN THIS POST. I am not God; and seperately, I am not sure if this would work, but I am also not superhuman yet.

I work hard, daily to follow Jesus and please God. Living a Godly life is not extremely hard, however, living in purity is NOT easy, is NOT fun and should NOT be bragged about. I know that God commanded us to not commit fornication and adultery. So, I know not do those things, but at the same time, I will also not say that I can not fall into that, because I could.

Yes, we all should follow Jesus and live to please God according to what God commanded in His Word, the Bible. A person or minister who serves God is very helpful for people to learn about God and to grow in God. However, ministers are human, and you should not live for God based on a minister's or someone's example; and you should not leave God based on a minister's or someone's failure.

People say that minister's should be held to a higher standard. I believe that people's expectations of ministers are to some degree overblown. God works through ministers to perform miracles, but ministers do have feelings and needs like everybody else.

As a minister here, I do not hold myself to the standards set by people. It is important for me to please God first. If I know that God is pleased with me, then I know I am allright or in good shape with my life. I am made righteous by Jesus Christ, and I stand in righteousness by the Spirit of God.

Also, a mistake, weakness or vulnerability does NOT NECESSARILY destroy or end a person's ministry who is chosen of God, despite people's expectations and thinking. Such failings did not stop Samson or King David, who did a whole lot more great things for God, than many people who want to criticize and find excuses today.

I want to mention in here, in regards to the American golfer, that I came across a website that was talking about the American golfer's cheating problems. This website is supposed to be a Christian website, but the people on there said some really nasty things about the golfer. I have very good reason to believe that site is NOT truly christian and certainly NOT Godly.

I want to also mention, speaking for God, that MANY times an individual's personal weaknesses and vulnerabilities in regards to sex should NOT be openly exploited or publically revealed and judged for public viewing. Certain secrets about individuals should NOT be revealed publically. Specifically, sexual relations or issues about SOME people is one of the main things that should remain personal or private.

There is a very fine line, there, where you have to be careful. It is one of those things that requires wisdom given from God, and MOST people do not have wisdom given from God. The person if they have problems still should be corrected or spoken to by God leading a person to tell them. Just because it is a personal and private matter does not mean that God does not want to speak to the person about their ways, and such person needs to be willing to listen to what God's message is and repent.

Now, in regards to a group with a sex issue or problem that is mentioned above is different. An example of that would be PAST sexual transgressions of the Catholic church Priests and Bishops sexually molesting children. Something like that needs to come out and be exposed publically.

Furthermore, anything bad or sinful, whether personal or with a group or institution needs to be known, it is just that for the personal matter NOT everybody needs to know, whereas, the group or institution's matter everybody does need to know or be aware of. I need to come back and mention specifics about the OTHER website I found saying the very nasty things about the golfer.

Men Cheating On Their Wives 4th Pt.

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Throughout history it can be found that quite a number of famous men had a wife, and other women for sex. In the Bible in the Old Testament, there are at least 14 documented cases of men with more than one women. Most notable are Abraham, King David and King Solomon, WHO EACH WERE GREAT MEN OF GOD. The MANY, MANY other women besides their wife were called concubines. Solomon really got carried away, and broke the rule of God for kings, by having many wives, which is different from the concubines.

Another GREAT MAN OF GOD, JACOB did not have as many concubines as David and Solomon, but he had 2 wives named Rachel and Leah. Jacob was actually given 2 concubines, one from each of his wives. Those 2 concubines were his wives' handmaids.

Rachel and Leah were in competition against each other over Jacob's love. Jacob was having a lot of sex with each of his wives and their handmaids, and later on after God opened Rachel's womb, The competition, between Rachel and Leah, really got intense to have a certain number of babies. It was like a baby war, between Jacob's wives, going on.

It is believed that in New Testament times, the practice of having sex with many women or other women other than one wife was unacceptable, and thus falls under adultery and fornication, which were in the Old Testament, but not those specific practices with concubines. This still has not stopped men to this present day, nor has it stopped the women for WILLINGLY TAKING PART WITH these married men.

So, what does this all mean in this WHOLE SERIES of posts, for the wife or the two spouses in a marriage relationship? I have told some women that they should not be surprised at hearing anything about their man concerning cheating whether true or not. Just do not be so naive or surprised, especially if your husband is rich and famous.

I need to add this here to women, that even with the above said, do NOT be so quick to jump to conclusions against your husband, quit being predictable, AND GIVE YOUR MAN A CHANCE TO EXPLAIN HIMSELF OR HIS SIDE OF THE STORY before you make a judgement.

Women and men need to talk about the things in these posts before they make a committment to get married, WITH believing in God, again, pray about these situations. In today's world there is a lot of temptation out there and it is harder to fight off than in previous years or ages. Men need to be honest with women and their wives about what they need and want. Wives need to be a little more understanding to their man's needs and wants, by doing SOME extra "sexy things"; NOT just any or everything, but again SOME extra things for the man.

This is not absolute, but men are very susceptible to beautiful women and the opportunity to have them no matter who the man is, be him a priest, sports star, politician, boss, etc. There are also very beautiful women out there willing to take advantage of the opportunity.

Just being a standard typical wife, who is at home and takes care of the kids, does not always cut it. In some cases it is necessary for the wife to play the role of at LEAST 3 to 5 different types of women, which includes being a wife, in order to please her husband from a sexual standpoint. A man may have to play at least 2 different roles or types of men to please his wife. I used the terms, at least, because with some people, especially men, there is a desire for more than 3 to 5 roles or types.

It takes work to get your husband or wife, and it takes work to keep them from straying, and I am talking about both party's involved. Either person can not just sit at home and let themselves go, gaining weight, looking sloppy and smelling badly, while the other is away a lot, or both are away from each other a lot and expect nothing bad is going to happen. It is important to be PHYSICALLY there for your spouse, man and woman, and take care of yourself to be decent and attractive to your spouse.

Men Cheating On Their Wives 3rd Pt.

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Repeating again from previous post, it is NOT okay for a husband to cheat on his wife, or for a wife to cheat on her husband. Husbands are to love their wives more than another woman, and wives are to love their husbands more than another man.

Love is more important than sex. Although I want to say to some people that is no excuse to deny your spouse. In a married couple's relationship, sex is an important part of love. However, love is bigger than sex. In other words, sex fits inside of love.

Despite the responsibility of a committment to you, the woman from your husband, and the fact that he is supposed to love you, it is still very important that you as the wife try to fulfill your man's sexual expectations. Both wife and husband need to do that, but moreso the wife. That is in order for the marriage committment to be happy and fulfilling. I will explain further about that below here.

Again as mentioned in the previous post, many times when a person or especially a famous person is having an affair, everybody do NOT need to know about it. Everybody do not need to know all the details of the affair either.

For mistresses or other women involved, the only people who should know about it, is really the wife. If you want to turn the guy in, turn him in to his wife privately, NOT to anybody else for money or other reasons. Again, do not forget that you willingly took part along with the guy.

In the case of the golfer, the mistresses would have been smart to, again, not say anything publically because the particular person probably could have gave you a much higher pay off than those media outlets.

I mentioned in the last post, that there may have been some feelings by that man towards the other women; however, concerning the women, coming out publically to humiliate a person that you took part with shows just how black and evil and uncaring your heart is. You want someone to care for you and not hurt you, and look at what you did. Apparently you did not care for him. Guys or men, I hope you all take notes on that. If the media comes knocking and asking, nobody has to say NOTHING.

Some quick points that women need to know. I did research on this and men need to have a lot of sex. Sex actually improves a man's health, to the point of adding close to 8 extra years of life. It is more healthier for a man to have sex, than to abstain or be in chastity.

The unquoted view is that men need quantity and women need quality. Another thing, a lot of men would like to have more than one women. Many men, if asked that will not admit it, but it is true. It is one of almost every man's fantasy to have MORE THAN ONE women. If I could I would. I am going to tell the truth.

I also believe in a committed relationship. Another thing about the above information I am saying in this post series, this is a seperate thinking in service to God. I know what some Christian believers want to say about what I am saying in these posts, with words like sex and fantasy and about thinking and mindset.

I know what scriptures from Apostle Paul, Christians want to give me. Generally speaking, I know about that and believe in that as a Christian, but that is not what this particular posts series is about. This particular series is about getting couples to think about real causes of cheating, and addressing practical methods of preventing problems of cheating from happening between a man and woman in a marriage relationship. By the way, that is something to pray about for believers and followers of Christ. There is more I need to add to this series on cheating.